Hi Friends, Finally i gave my 10th speech in Toastmaster’s club. I Hope you will like reading it.
“I wish I had…” This is the most common statement. I wish I had said yes to her. I wish I accepted that job offer. I wish I had tried more etc. etc. This statement “I wish I had!” is an expression of regret. Yes Regret! Regret is one of the saddest feeling. Why sad? Because we regret for something which happened in the past. And once a moment is gone, it’s gone forever for never to be returned. Friends today through my speech, I would like to share with you all the top 5 regrets of dying people to make us all realize certain things before these regrets become our regrets.
Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. Recently in her book, she revealed the top 5 regrets which people made in their dying state. More money or more power or missed doing their bungee jumping can be their regrets. Well if you have guessed these then the answer is No!
The no 1 regret people had is “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”. I read these lines again and again and each time I realized that this really applies to me. I asked myself why I don’t have this courage. To be frank, I am living a life which is not true to me. I am living my each day doing things which others expect me of doing. Sometimes I feel as if it does not matter to others what I really want. But it matters to me because it’s my life and if I don’t have this courage now then I will have this regret later in my life. Friend I do not want to convince anybody here to live their life the way you really want to live but just want you all to realize the fact that if you are not living that life then sooner or later you will have this regret. Life is short and with each day is slipping away from your hand like sand. Save it before it’s too late.
Well what’s the second regret….?
I wish I hadn’t worked so hard. This came usually from male patient. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners.
My last assignment in Nagarro took almost a year to finish and believe me I have never seen such a hard working project manager in my life. Throughout the year, each day my manager used to come office early but always the last one to go. This may be the story of others as well. But people on their death bed don’t regret making more money or to be more successful in their carrier. Instead their top regret is “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard”. We do know what is more important to us but still the irony is that though out our life we chased something which is actually not that important. So friends have a balance in your life. Your children and your spouse are equally important as your carrier. Make them as your strength not the reason of your regret later.
Well Third regret….
I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. Well don’t we hide our feelings? We suppress our feeling to in order to keep peace with others. Do you know the bitterment and resentment we carried each day can later become the cause of many of our illnesses? Express it out. Don’t keep it there. You will really feel light. Although it’s one of the difficult things in this world especially when these feeling are negative but its truth after all and truth is always bitter so express it out.
Well the fourth regret…
Friends! From class 1st till now, I remember the name and time spend with my best friends. I still remember my first friend in school “Amritagiri” and then Sangita and then Kawaljeet Kaur. I can still recall a very vivid pictures of that time spend with these girls. Well thanks to facebook and social media. At least now we know where they are but still just adding them on facebook and reliving you old days with friend are two different things. The later one needs your time which you don’t have now a days. But friends let me tell you. the fourth regret is “I wish I had stayed touch with my friends”. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying. Meet them and get them back in your life.
Well any guesses for the fifth regret and the last one?
The fifth regret is about “That sad little face”, “the time spend crying all night”. The fifth regret is about happiness. “I wish that I have let myself be happier” is the fifth regret. Yes this is surprising the common one. Until the end we do not realize that Happiness is actually a choice and not a matter of our circumstances. One or the other problem will always remain in our life. We always find one reason to remain sad but always ingnore those 100 reasons which are enough to keep us happy. Well still if anybody in this room says that he/she is not happy then let me give you a reason to be happy. Look at your hands .Stretch it out in the air. Widen your eyes. Look around. Can you see these beautiful colours around you? Is that not enough what we can see, what we can touch. We have hands to do what we want. We have eyes to see this beautiful world. This should be enough reason to keep us all happy I guess.
Well Friends. These were the top 5 regrets of dying people. I wish we don’t have any single one of them when we say our final good bye. We have time and we are young. So live the life true to yourself; don’t work too hard that you miss your children or partner; Go get your friends back; express yourself and be happy. Yes be happy 🙂